This is my favorite challenge so far, I have been looking forward to it since Day 1. 😛 Notice the “*” at the end of the title? If you see that in any of my 30 days challenge, it means those are my favorite posts. Specially for this post, I spent half a day imagining myself getting married tomorrow.  So I’m excited, you’re excited, let’s get on with it! 😀

BERTUNANG (ENGAGEMENT)

As Malays, we have lots of tradition and customs that we need to follow. Before the solemnization ceremony, the couple needs to be engaged. Unlike the Westerners who automatically got engaged after the guy proposed to the girl, we Malays have our own tradition. The groom’s entourage (usually his family members) will go to the bride’s house to meet the parents bringing hantaran (gifts) for the bride. Next, the mother of the groom will put a ring(or two, depends on the groom’s family) on the bride’s finger. After the ring ceremony, both families will exchange hantaran and discuss a date for the solemnization ceremony. Usually the engagement period will normally take about 6 months but it’s totally up to both families. There are people who got engaged years before marriage. As for me, I want to be engaged for a maximum of 6 months. If possible, I want to get engaged a day before the solemnization ceremony. :p

AKAD NIKAH (SOLEMNIZATION)

Moving on. Like any other Muslims, the first step to a married life is the akad nikah (solemnization) ceremony. Only close family members and close friends will be invited to my akad nikah which will be held at my house, preferably in the morning. I have a very very huge extended family and preparing the invite list will take sometime as I don’t want to hurt any of their feelings. I want to use pastel colors for my akad nikah –  from the mini pelamin to the table top, oh and my baju pengantin. I have yet to decide what colors I’ll use for the ceremony but I’m 53% sure that I’ll be wearing peach and 47% white. And what do I want to wear? A simple elaborated (if it’s elaborated, it’s not simple isn’t it? :p) Baju Kurung Modern.

Something like this. Get the idea?

I want my husband to wear complete Baju Melayu. And by “complete” means with Samping.

Focus on the groom. This is an example of complete Baju Melayu. The 'thing' that is wrapped around his waist is Samping.

As for the mini pelamin:

Something like this but a little bit more elaborated.

But it must be decorated with fresh flowers. I love fresh flowers! If possible Tulips, but kalau susah sangat, roses will do. 🙂

BERSANDING (RECEPTION)

I will have 2 wedding receptions – my side and the groom’s side. For my side of reception, I will invite a maximum of 500 guests. My parents and myself have tonnes of friends but unfortunately we won’t invite everyone. As I have mentioned earlier I have a huge family therefore inviting only couples like my aunts and uncles with their spouses will be taken into consideration. My reception will be held in the evening, the same day my akad nikah will be held. The theme for that evening shall be Malay Traditional Wedding with a Twist. What twist you might ask? I want a garden concept. I know, it is so cliche.  An outdoor garden that fits 500 guests max will be chosen for the dinner reception. My guests are allowed to wear any color they want as I don’t want to restrict them to a specific color. I want a simple, intimate, beautiful and elegant reception. As you scroll down this page you might think what’s so simple about this wedding, but trust me, I’ll do it as simple as I can.

I want to wear Kebaya Songket. To those who don’t know how it looks like:

See what Tuanku Zara wore on her wedding day? That is Kebaya Songket.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t dream of marrying a prince. This is just an example to show the outfit that I want. After the Renjis (blessing) ceremony, dinner will be served.

The setting but I prefer less flowers, MORE food. 😀 I nak tables mcm tu.

After dinner, comes the cake cutting ceremony. I’ll change into a simple and elegant wedding gown (bila lagi nak merasa kan. ngee) and cut our three-tier wedding cake which stands for “I Love You”.

a MUSt have deco in a garden concept wedding. This is where I want to cut our wedding cake.

Ok. I think that’s enough. Tak mau berangan lagi dah. I know, some people might think that I want to get married because of THE wedding je. You know what? Screw you. It is every girl’s dream to get married but it’s not just about the wedding je. I know I’m still studying but somewhere deep down inside me I’m ready to be someone’s wife and mother. I’ll just have to wait for the right moment – which I don’t want to mention what it is.

Whatever it is I want KS Entourage to be my wedding planner.

Signed, sealed, posted,

Dottie.

 

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